Things are going great in your relationship, so why would you consider couples therapy?
Unfortunately, the stigma linked to couples therapy indicates that you wouldn’t. Meeting with a couples therapist is thought to be a last relationship resort. Sadly, many don’t realize that couples therapy can benefit how you work as a couple. Seeing a couples therapist when things are good in your relationship can also save you loads of drama down the line.
Of course, some say that couples therapy doesn’t work. The problem with that statement? The lack of context. How long did the couple struggle before they decided to attend therapy? Were they open to compromise? With every argument, more anger builds and resentment rises, making it more difficult to solve the problems at hand.
The reality is that no relationship is perfect. No attempt to avoid conflict will last. Yet, with couples counseling, your mutual desire to stay close, respectful, and open are honored and engaged to ensure a lasting, positive outcome.
Going to Couples Therapy Does Not Mean You’re Struggling
Struggles and hardships come with any relationship. Couples therapy can be a great resource for communication skills and strategies. The goal may simply be to learn to express yourselves better individually, as well as a couple. Not only does this create a safe space for both partners to open up about how they are struggling, but it also supports a strong foundation for a long-lasting relationship.
Couples therapy for healthy couples can help establish a resiliency through effective conflict resolution too. You can improve the way that you cope with the inevitable challenges all relationships encounter. With a therapist’s support you may feel better prepared to work as a team to solve problems such as financial strife, personal distress, job loss, or tragedy.
Solidifying the foundation before it cracks is the best way to keep a relationship strong. It is much easier to learn how to handle relationship problems before they arise than to fix them retroactively.
Get Insight From a Non-Biased Source
A couple going through couples therapy when things are good can benefit from getting a different perspective on how to operate, together and individually. Getting an unbiased perspective that is not from a family member or friend could help you see the other’s point of view more clearly.
We often feel comfortable going to loved ones to talk about our personal struggles. However, some level of bias or judgement may exist that isn’t helpful in attaining harmony in your relationship. Couples therapy allows for an impartial perspective, assuring each partner sees things more clearly.
Understand One Another From The Inside Out
Couples therapy for healthy relationships can help each partner understand and empathize with each other. Perhaps developing a deeper compassion regarding past traumas is necessary. Or recognizing the impact of past relationships is required. Couples who understand each other’s behaviors and emotions can learn healthier ways to react in stressful situations.
Some may feel they know everything about their partner. However, it is safe to say that there are instances when one partner doesn’t completely understand why the other is behaving a certain way or saying certain things. It is not uncommon to have triggers in a relationship and each experience is unique to them. Couples therapy can help the individuals understand the source of the behavior and how to solve it.
Clear communication and understanding are imperative for keeping things good in a relationship. Couples therapy teaches the skills necessary to effectively understand each other’s perspectives and recognizes their feelings.
Take the Next Step
It is a common misconception that you are only supposed to go to couples therapy if you are struggling as a couple. Yet, you and your partner don’t have to wait for trouble to secure good communication, learn how to resolve conflict effectively, and deepen your connection.
It is much harder to overcome hardships when you have built up resentment against the person you love. Before letting the anger and dissatisfaction build up, choose couples therapy to build strong skills for a long-lasting relationship. Reach out to one of our couples therapists to learn more.
Call us at 623-680-3486,text 623-688-5115, or email firstname.lastname@example.org. You can ask all the questions you have and see if couples therapy at Crossroads is the right fit for you. If you want to learn more about the process and how we use Emotionally Focused Couple’s Therapy (EFT) click here.