We are born to need each other. Accepting your need for emotional connection is not a sign of weakness, but maturity and strength.
Take Control of Your Relationship with Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
Is your marriage or relationship stuck? Do you miss feeling loved and connected with your partner? Perhaps you are dealing with the effects of an affair or other violation of trust. Maybe you have you tried couples counseling and had limited or no success. Or perhaps you feel hopeless, lost, and confused? Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples can help you to overcome infidelity, recapture love, improve communication, and to resolve conflict. Crossroads EFT therapists can help you in your relationship.
EFT Couples Counseling Effectively Treats the Root Cause.
Crossroads Family Counseling Center is committed to strengthening marriages, couples, and families by offering a variety of research based services including Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT couples counseling is a proven, tested, and empirically validated model that helps you express needs and concerns in a way that stops fighting, improves connection, and heals broken relationships. You will be able to find new solutions to those lingering problems, feel closer to your partner, and improve emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy.
Unlike other relationship models, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy goes to the root of the destructive patterns, harsh words, and defensive reactions that overwhelms a relationship or marriage. When couples argue, fight, and do not get along it is usually because they do not feel safely connected, close, heard, valued and loved. EFT helps you and your partner to improve communication, build trust, strengthen your emotional bond, and to increase connection which is the secret to a happy and fulfilling relationship.
EFT has better outcomes than cognitive, behavioral, communication skill building, and other approaches to marital therapy. Research on the success of EFT indicates that couples tend to move from distress to recovery in 15-20 sessions for 70-75% of the cases, and creates improvements in 90% of couples who complete EFT. Compare this to the next highest leading model’s couple therapy rate which is only 35%.
How Can Emotionally Focused Therapy Help Your Relationship?
EFT was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Les Greenberg and draws heavily from John Bowlby’s Attachment Theory. Whereas most other marital approaches focus on improving communication skills, problem solving, conflict resolution, negative thoughts, and setting firmer boundaries, EFT focuses on the root causes that lie behind conflict and distress in relationships. When couples or family members fight and argue it is usually due to not feeling emotionally connected, safe, secure, and being able to reach for comfort and reassurance.
When we can’t reach for comfort and closeness with our loved one we either pull away, shut down, and become distant or we react by becoming anxious, demanding, and clingy. These ways of dealing with disconnection develop into a negative cycle of interaction where you have one person who often will criticize, blame, and attack while the other defends, stonewalls, and closes off.
In a relatively short period of time EFT helps couples and families to overcome the negative patterns and cycles and move into deeper, more fulfilling connection. It is when we are able to reach for comfort, reassurance, and share our deepest emotions and needs to feel safe and secure that real change occurs.