If you’re a parent of young children, you undoubtedly understand what a temper tantrum looks like. Your toddler might be the sweetest child in the world at times. Then, they turn around and have a meltdown when you least expect it.
These tantrums can be exhausting, overwhelming, and even embarrassing, depending on where and when they occur.
As a parent, it’s easy to get frustrated or even lose your cool when your child has a temper tantrum. But that isn’t doing much good for either of you. Thankfully, by taking mindful approaches, you can de-escalate the situation. You’ll also feel better about yourself and subsequently teach your child how to regulate their emotions and express themselves.
Stay Calm
It can be difficult to stay calm while your child is acting out. But it’s one of the most important things you can do. Not only will it make it easier to de-escalate the tantrum, but you’ll be more likely to stay of sound mind.
Staying calm will also help to keep you focused on the present rather than thinking about all of the other times your child has frustrated you or worrying about what’s going to happen next.
Take a few deep breaths before speaking to your child, and don’t become argumentative.
If necessary, put yourself in time out. That doesn’t mean you walk away from the situation for an hour. But, if you need a few minutes to composure to ensure you can stay calm, that’s reasonable and healthy.
Express Your Feelings
Again, children often have tantrums because they are still learning how to express their feelings in healthy and productive ways. You can help yourself and your little one by expressing yours.
When your child is in the middle of a tantrum, try to calm them down by letting them know how you feel. It’s okay to tell them you’re frustrated or sad. Show them what those feelings look like. Be a role model for how to deal with them in calm, healthy ways. This is a mindful and effective way to acknowledge your feelings instead of trying to ignore them or sweep them under the rug.
The bonus, of course, is showing your child that feelings can be complicated and overwhelming, but they don’t have to dictate their actions.
Additionally, be sure to acknowledge your child’s feelings as they start to be able to put a name to them. Everyone deserves to have their emotions validated. By helping your child understand their emotions from a young age, you can also help them work through the negative ones.
Mindfulness Practices
You might be tempted to do whatever it takes to stop a tantrum as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, that can cause you to feel overwhelmed and stressed. It’s hard to think clearly when you’re in a situation like that, which is why mindfulness is so important.
Teach your child about mindfulness and how it can be an effective tool for them. Consider practicing mindful techniques together during tantrums and as a part of your daily routine.
Teaching your child practices like meditation or yoga can be a healthy and effective way to get them more in tune with their emotions. They can learn how to silence the chaotic voices stirring up so many emotions and stay calm while they process. Encouraging mindfulness techniques now won’t just reduce the frequency of tantrums but can also improve their mental well-being for years to come.
By taking mindfulness approaches during tantrums, you’ll create a safe space and a calmer situation for everyone. If you’re looking for more tips or ideas to incorporate mindfulness practices, feel free to contact me to set up an appointment soon.
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