Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. That has many couples thinking about love and romantic gestures. Or, it might have you scrambling to buy the last box of chocolates at the store because you forgot about the holiday—again!
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you might occasionally feel like the “spark” is dwindling. That doesn’t mean there are problems between you and your partner or even that you’re unhappy. Most people tend to accept that they aren’t always going to have butterflies the way they did at the beginning of a relationship.
But, there’s no reason why you can’t keep the romance alive, no matter how long you’ve been in a relationship.
Whether you want to liven things up for Valentine’s Day or you’re looking for ways to add the spark back to your relationship year-round, use these tips to get started.
1. Never Stop Dating
One of the biggest issues couples face after being together for years is that they stop “courting” the way they once did.
You should never stop dating your partner. Even though your schedules might get busy and you might have other things to do, make time for each other. Go out once a week, just the two of you, and focus on each other and your relationship.
2. Offer Small Gestures
The littlest things often make the biggest impact.
One of the easiest ways to keep your romance alive is to perform small gestures for your partner as often as possible. Pack them a lunch, leave a note in their coat pocket, or brush the snow off of their car for them in the morning.
When you do these small things without being asked and without expecting anything in return, your partner will notice. They’ll feel cherished and loved, and that will go a long way.
3. Acknowledge Their Gestures
Additionally, if your partner does things for you, show your gratitude. Let them know how much you appreciate those gestures and any other ways they take care of you on a daily basis.
Gratitude is huge in a relationship. Too many people take things for granted, but showing genuine appreciation for your partner will strengthen your bond and your desire for each other. Everyone wants to be appreciated, so don’t be afraid to tell your partner every day how grateful you are for them.
4. Greet Them With Physical Touch
Do you ever feel like you don’t touch your partner as much as you used to? It’s not an uncommon issue to have, and you might not even realize it most of the time.
Physical touch is hugely important for a romantic and intimate relationship. Try to make it a priority every day by greeting your partner with a hug, or giving them a kiss before you leave in the morning. Even holding their hand while you watch television together can make a difference.
It can take some time to get used to initiating non-sexual physical touch, but once you’re comfortable with it again, you will both crave and appreciate every second of it.
5. Spend Time Alone
This might seem counterproductive, but spending some time away from your partner can actually help you feel closer. Pursue your own hobbies and encourage them to do the same. It will give you something to talk about and share with each other.
Plus, when you both come back home each day, you won’t take a single second together for granted. Spending time alone, even if it’s just for an hour or two each day, will help you realize just how much you love and want the person you’re with.
You don’t have to wait for Valentine’s Day to roll around to reignite the spark in your relationship. Keep these tips in mind to keep your romance alive at any stage.
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