“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance.”
I Corinthians 13:7
Are Trust, Communication or Intimacy Issues Taking a Toll on Your Marriage?
Do you love your spouse but feel insecure, unsafe or unhappy when you are with him or her? Have you tried to heal together but fall into patterns of avoidance or ineffective communication? Do you argue, avoid or blame one another instead of turning to each other and your shared faith for solutions and support? You may want to foster a stronger, deeper connection with your spouse, but aren’t sure what you can do to change existing behaviors. Or, maybe you have reached a crisis point in your marriage, such as an affair or other betrayal, and need “emergency life support” to restore trust and connection in your marriage. You may have even talked about separation or divorce, but want to make sure you have tried everything you can to save your marriage. Perhaps you have tried traditional marriage counseling before but didn’t receive the expert support and practical skills you needed to address the specific problems in your marriage. Or, maybe you were able to connect emotionally and physically, but still feel like there is a spiritual component missing in your relationship. Do you wish you could find intensive christian marriage counseling that respects and incorporates your Christian values as you heal and learn new ways of relating, connecting and communicating with one another?
Many Couples Struggle to Foster a Deeper Connection
Almost every couple goes through periods of time when they feel disconnected or stuck in unhealthy patterns or routines. Marriage problems arise for a variety of reasons and can leave you questioning yourself, your spouse or your marriage. It may be that you have felt unhappy or unfulfilled for years, and your efforts to talk to your spouse only seem to make things worse. Or, maybe you and your spouse don’t know how to reestablish trust after a betrayal or infidelity. Unresolved hurts and resentments may be creating tension, fighting or ongoing conflicts. Alternately, you may feel increasingly distant as you and/or your spouse try to reduce arguments by avoiding one another. It may seem like you are living with a roommate instead of an intimate partner. Unfortunately, couples wait an average of six years after problems start before seeking guidance and support according to Dr. John Gottman, world renowned couples therapist and founder of Gottman Method Couples Therapy. And, in that time, the relationship problems can build to a breaking point. You may want or need a breakthrough with your spouse, but it can be difficult finding a licensed Christian marriage counselor who understands and respects the role faith plays in your marriage.
If you’re looking for intensive Christian marriage counseling that honors and incorporates your faith, we can help. Our intensive Christian marriage retreats help couples identify their core emotions and needs, address sources of conflict or disconnection and learn new ways of relating, connecting and communicating. All in just 1-3 days.
Intensive Christian Marriage Retreats Can Help Strengthen Your Marriage
Whether your marriage is at risk or you are trying to deepen an already strong connection, intensive Christian marriage therapy can offer you and your spouse education, resources, guidance and support. The licensed marriage therapists at Crossroads Counseling integrate theology and a Christian faith perspective with scientifically validated therapy approaches. We create a safe, compassionate space where you can feel comfortable exploring what you want and need to feel emotionally, physically and spiritually connected with your spouse. And, by focusing on your unique challenges, goals, needs and beliefs in an intensive therapy workshop, you can create meaningful and lasting change in as little as 1-3 days.
During Christian couples retreats, you can learn about the science of attachment. You can discover how early attachments and past experiences may be influencing your respective and collective patterns of communication and learn to recognize cycles of arguments or avoidance that keep you from connecting emotionally and spiritually. When you understand how you and your spouse approach disagreements, you can develop empathy and more easily share your emotions and respond to each other’s needs in a healthy, effective way. Instead of waiting for your turn to speak, you can listen with compassion and an open heart. And, rather than becoming defensive or placing blame, you can learn to come together to talk about difficult issues and respond to relationship challenges with love and forgiveness.
In addition to incorporating Christian theology and principles, our therapists utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) techniques to help couples understand and address the root causes behind relationship challenges. EFT has been clinically proven to help couples find healing when they are experiencing significant relationship issues. In fact, 90 percent of couples who complete EFT notice improvement in their relationship (compared to only 35 percent for the next leading couples therapy model). As trained and certified EFT therapists, we can help you and your spouse learn new ways to communicate and connect more effectively and efficiently.
Whether you are looking for one-on-one intensive Christian couples counseling or a weekend group Christian marriage retreat, we can help you build a deeper, more connected marriage. We offer the following individual and group couples intensives:
Option One: 1 couple meets with a marriage therapist for back-to-back 75-min sessions.
Option Two: 1 couple meets with a marriage therapist for two back-to-back 75-min sessions, breaking for lunch.
Option Three: Two day intensive where 1 couple meets with a marriage therapist for two days and two back-to-back 75-min sessions, breaking for lunch.
Group Weekend Intensive – Up to 5 couples participate in an intensive marriage retreat weekend journey usually starting on Friday evening, full day on Saturday, and ending on Sunday.
The marriage therapists at Crossroads Counseling have been helping couples heal and grow emotionally and spiritually for years. Whether you fear your marriage is headed toward divorce or you want to deepen your connection with your spouse , intensive Christian marriage counseling can help foster a closer, richer and more meaningful marriage.
But, you may still have questions or concerns about intensive Christian couples retreats…
We should be able to work through marriage problems on our own.
It is not uncommon for couples to feel like they should be able to manage challenges without outside help. But, it can be hard to see the forest from the trees when you’re going through serious marital problems. And, you may not be sure what you can do to heal and strengthen your relationship. A marriage therapist can serve as a guide, offering resources and support so you can understand marital stressors and work together to find solutions.
We don’t have the time or money for a marriage retreat.
It can be hard committing time and energy to couples counseling, especially if finances have been a source of stress or conflict. But, the relationship you share with your partner is one of the most important relationships you’ll have, and the happiness and the health of your family and marriage is invaluable. If cost and/or time are a factor, we offer half-day, weekend and group intensives to help accommodate tighter schedules and budgets.
I’m not sure I’m comfortable sharing our problems in front of a group.
Group intensives aren’t right for everyone. But, many couples find that they prefer group work to one-on-one marriage counseling. There can be a tremendous benefit in sharing your experience with a group and seeing that you are not alone. Furthermore, you will never have to share anything that doesn’t feel safe or comfortable. The other upside to Christian marriage workshops is that in addition to receiving the guidance and support of a licensed marriage therapist, you can build connections and friendships with other group members and enjoy a space where it is safe to be open and vulnerable. The bottom line is if you are not comfortable with being in a group than you and your spouse may sign up for one of our private intensive marriage counseling sessions.
Do we have to be Christian to participate in marriage intensives?
No. In the same way we counsel people from all faiths (and even no faith) backgrounds couples who wish to attend our marriage intensives are welcome.
You Can Feel Close and Connected
If you are ready to foster a more open, honest and spiritual connection with your spouse, or if you have additional questions about intensive Christian marriage retreats in Phoenix, AZ, we invite you to call us at 623-680-3486 or email email@example.com for a complementary 20-minute phone consultation.
Marriage Intensive dates for 2018: April 20-22, August 24-26 and October 12-14.